"I must learn to love the fool in me- the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries."--Theodore Isaac Rubin
So I have had this theory for a long time that there are some ordinary people, perfectly nice and whatever else but kind of just blah, and some extraordinary people, you know the ones who make your day a little more interesting just by being in it, good or bad. I have often looked at couples, my cousin and her husband for one example, and been a little confused. Yeah, there is nothing WRONG with him; he’s not a drunk or a cheater or mean at all. But, we all were a little disappointed at her wedding. Because, she’s an extraordinary person. She’s the kind of person who can light up a room with her smile. She graduated from BC. She was captain of the swim team. She can funnel a beer better than anyone I know. She’s extraordinary. And, not that this is a bad thing persay, he’s just pretty ordinary.
Now, maybe my cousin and her husband are an exception, since they’re still married and have a baby and are perfectly happy, but, I don’t think extraordinary people and ordinary people can stay together. Maybe the extraordinary person realizes that the person they’re with just doesn’t make their heart pound like it should. However, more often than not, the ordinary person gets a little overconfident, or intimidated by all this extraordinariness (good or bad, again), and breaks it off, whatever “it” is.
The worst part is when this ordinary person immediately finds another seemingly ordinary person to be with or flirt with or what have you. The extraordinary person finds him or herself distraught, comparing every feature or personality trait with this person, coming to a dumbfounding conclusion— by every normal standard, they are better than the ordinary person. And this is because, simply put, they are.
It is a mystery of life why this ordinary person doesn’t realize how awesome the extraordinary person is. However, all I can say is that all of my very close friends are EXTRAORDINARY in every, single sense of the word. So if this happens to you, please don’t fret or compare. The sad truth is that you were just too extraordinary to handle.
xoxo,
j
